It seems like every month there is a special occasion that makes us miss our loved one more than usual. Due to Valentine’s Day, February is no exception. Our family has many fond memories of celebrating Valentines together.

As a family we are grateful for the years we had with Jenae, although we wish we could have had more. This is the heartbreaking aspect of living life without our loved one.

In Ecclesiastes 3, it states there is a time to morn, a time to weep, a time to heal and a time to laugh. We should allow ourselves time to grieve. But, after thinking and feeling the same thing thousands of times we need to assess the wellbeing of our hearts. We should analyze our thoughts, emotions, and actions and process these in relation to scripture. We should be aware that we can tend to be too focused on our grief/loss. If left unchecked we can turn bitter and farther away from God.

We should focus on bringing our thoughts into captivity:
2 Corinthians 10:4-5 (NKJV) 
4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ

We need to sort through our thoughts and weed out those that are not of God. Many of these negative thoughts come from the evil one who is out to steal, kill, and destroy. He tempted Jesus, and he tempts us. He will do anything to separate us from God and have us walk away from Him. The evil one will also tempt us to turn to superficial and temporary earthly things; or to the imperfect ways or philosophies of man. We must remember; Jesus is the way, the perfect way. Turning to other things rather than Jesus is forsaking Christ. This is by thinking other things are better or more effective than Him.

Consider that those who are a new creation in Christ should be having the mind of Christ:
1 Corinthians 2:12 & 16 (NKJV) 
Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things that have been freely given to us by God. 16 For “who has known the mind of the LORD that he may instruct Him?” But we have the mind of Christ.

So what is the first thing we do when we find our heart is hard, cold, broken or shattered? Observe what is said in the book of Ezekiel:
Ezekiel 36:26 (NKJV) “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 11:19 also has a similar passage.

Finding this twice in the same book means that this concept was important to God. Observe who is doing the work; it is God! God is Love! Can he not give us a new heart? When we go to Him in prayer for a new heart, He will give it!
He will take our broken heart and replace it with a beautiful new one. Note that He doesn’t mend the old, He gives us a new heart. ❤️ With a new heart comes a changed life.

The second thing to do is to actually pray to God for a new heart. Pray for wisdom and strength also, so that you will be able to keep away from negativity. I know God gives a new heart to those who ask and abide in him. Do not let the evil one bring you down into wallowing in self-pity!
Look to the Apostle Paul as an example. We see in the book of Philippians the joy Paul had even though he was imprisoned and was to be sentenced to death. Paul would not have been joyful if he did not have a new heart. Those who do the will of God in their life will receive comfort and joy.

Psalms 126:5-6 (NKJV) 
5 Those who sow in tears Shall reap in joy. 6 He who continually goes forth weeping, Bearing seed for sowing, Shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, Bringing his sheaves with him.

As the verse above indicates. Take heart; grief will last for a season, but Jesus, the Wonderful Counselor, is there to give you a new heart. He will help you through your sorrow and bring you joy and rejoicing. Jesus has and will right every wrong.

When we first lost our daughter, I never thought it would be possible to ever smile or laugh again. Everything was empty, but Jesus brought fulfillment. Nothing in this world will do it. Jesus is the only way.